Starting a new job can be equal parts exciting and intimidating. You’re eager to make a strong first impression, contribute meaningfully, and show that you belong. But for many, especially those who are early in their careers or working in a second language, speaking up in meetings can feel like walking a tightrope. What if you say the wrong thing? What if you don’t have the right word? What if people don’t take you seriously?
I recently had a conversation with a client who’s two weeks into a new role. They were feeling the pressure to show up strong in meetings, but also unsure of how to do that while navigating the added challenge of English being their second language. They wanted to contribute, but were holding back out of fear of stumbling on a word or not being perfectly clear.
That’s when I shared a concept with them that I call “positive vulnerability.”
Positive vulnerability is the courageous act of being open about what you need in order to do your best work—especially when you’re new. In my client’s case, it meant giving themselves permission to ask for help when they couldn’t find the right word, instead of freezing or going silent.
For example, saying something like, “I’m trying to explain this, but I can’t find the right English word—can you help me?” doesn’t show weakness. It shows intent, engagement, and a willingness to learn. That’s positive vulnerability in action.
Too often, we associate vulnerability with risk or weakness. But when used thoughtfully and with purpose, vulnerability becomes a powerful connector. When you open up, even just a little, you create space for others to support you. And here’s the truth: people love to help. It makes them feel useful and valued. It creates trust. It builds relationships.
Positive vulnerability also communicates something critical to your team: that you’re committed to doing things well, even if you’re not perfect right away. That mindset goes a long way. Most colleagues don’t expect new hires to have all the answers. But they do notice when someone is curious, open, and brave enough to admit when they need support.
So if you’re starting a new job—or even a new chapter in your current one—consider how you can practice positive vulnerability. Ask questions. Say when something doesn’t make sense. Let people know what would help you show up better. It’s not only okay to do this—it’s often the smartest and most human move you can make.
You don’t need to be perfect to make an impact. You need to be present, engaged, and willing to grow. That’s what teams remember. That’s what builds influence over time.
Be open. Be real. And let others help you shine.
That’s the power of positive vulnerability.
